How many changes have you experienced?

Mid-life is certainly about more than just menopause, but it doesn’t help that such a drastic change in hormones can lead to so many changes – physically, mentally and emotionally.

My journey started with low energy and the inability to concentrate and think clearly. That led me to discover that my oestrogen levels had dropped to being ‘undetectable’ on a blood test.  And so began the ongoing process of looking for anything and everything that could help – from qualified practitioners to medication, vitamins and meditation.

Then there’s the roll-on effects. My skin is drier, so for the first time in my life I need richer moisturisers and oils for my face. My scalp is also dry, and I’ve started getting pigmentation as well. All of which has meant I’ve had to look for new makeup to suit my now ‘mature’ skin.

Add to this the redistribution of weight (my waist seems to be missing…) and even my wardrobe has to change to suit my new body shape. Fun, you say? It’s a minefield! Suddenly I’m following a bunch of different people online that talk about the best products for mid-life, what materials are breathable and skincare that works on dry skin instead of combination.

My least favourite changes so far have to be the sleeplessness and the emotional ups and downs. Understandably, more sleep means a more stable mood. And even different HRT can be the difference between feeling stable or being ready to fly off the handle at any point (for me, patches have made my moods less turbulent).

Given the enormity of changes we go though, is it any wonder that women-initiated divorce and even female suicide rates increase when women are in their 40s and 50s?

If you’re lucky enough to be getting support, whether professionally or from family and friends, remember that others may not be in the same position. So lets talk openly about the ups and downs, the good and the bad, and be there for each other when you see someone struggling.  Talk about what’s worked for you and what hasn’t. Let’s help each other navigate this time in our lives, because we’re all going to go through it at some point.